What do you want? Tell you.
If what you want is a big bellied, bald, short, fat, black but wealthy sugar daddy, who is to tell you that you can’t have him? It is what you want and no body else should have a say whatsoever against it. Or for it even, you don’t need anyone’s permission.
When it comes to what you want as an individual, a lot of people seem to believe that they should have an opinion of YOUR want, why though? Because they don’t. That sense of entitlement that comes from people that have little or no right at all is very common and an irritating behavior.
Imagine taking a taxi, a service you’re paying for with your hard earned money (or not, but it’s still your money), and the driver starts to lecture you on how not to keep your hair, or something about going out late. Or that your nosy friend telling you off on the boy that you like because she doesn’t like him. Or a friend wanting you to stop being friends with someone they’re not friends with anymore. The scenarios are endless, but you get the picture.
Don’t think that I don’t like to be corrected or advised, that’s not it at all. I can’t know it all. I can’t be right or correct every time. That’s where it balls down to opinion, everyone has an opinion, it doesn’t mean one is better than the other. The perspective we view things from might be different, and maybe if you ask for reasons before enforcing yours, you might see that your opinion can still be pocketed.
Now, let’s say it’s so bad you can’t mind your business anymore, you feel the need to share your opinion, please approach with due respect however hard that may seem, because that’s going to be a great influence as to wether you’re trying to communicate an information or insult the other person.
Back to the topic, what you want for you as an individual is top priority. I read somewhere that “a want without work is merely a dream”. So the first step of getting something you want is to make an intentional decision of wanting it. Don’t just say it, think it, or mention it in passing from a conversation. Write it down! Do research! Transform your every activity into short term goals towards achieving that want.
You want good grades? Learn how you best digest what you’re taught, there are lots of working methods. Do research.
You want that summer body? You know this already, go to the gym. You don’t want to socialize? Use YouTube for home workouts.
You have a spec that is out of your league? Work on yourself to match up with them. They’re human, they didn’t get there by accident.
This list is endless.
If you truly want to be happy, you have to live your life doing the things that you want. If not, everything else would only build up on your frustration in bits till it becomes too much for you to handle. Hence! Your mental health is taking a blow.
I’m also not saying we always get what we want, I’m just saying it’s better to know you exhausted your options of trying until it was out of your hands, it’s almost never out of your hands though. But it’s fine to win most and lose a few.
I’m only trying to say three things here
- Mind your business
- Focus on yourself
- Put in work to be better.
